I've found that there's usually a big difference between the "recommended" work they say is needed....if you're a woman as opposed to a man. It seems to be an assumption that women know less than men about mechanical "stuff" and can be talked into having unnecessary work done simply by using magic words like "safety", or "sudden breakdown on the road" or other scare terms.
I always make my wife bring me home the estimate sheets when she takes her car in for service. It seems to be a rule of thumb that dealerships make about 60% of their profits from the service department, not new/used car sales....so some (not all, but close) dealership service managers encourage their reps and mechanics to suggest certain work that isn't really necessary. Case in point. My wife took her 4 Runner into the dealership where she bought it for routine maintenenace....it was under warranty. She came back with a pre-authorization quote of $600 for "essential work" that needed to be done under the warranty. In this case, they talked about needing to maintain the car to keep it within warranty requirements....so she said OK...without question.
I croaked when I saw the pre-authorizaton....went over the pre-authorization sheet, took the warranty and service manual, compared the two, and found that almost 50% of the suggested work was totally unnecessary to maintain a warranty, and in fact didnt need to be done for several thousand miles, or done at all at that point. The Service Manager agreed that the work didn't necessarily have to be done at that time, but that "it might be a good idea" but ended up deleting some of that essential work. The final bill wasn't anywhere near the $600, and miraculously dropped to about $275, and all required warranty work was performed. Women are targets for this sort of tactic.
Here's another issue....oil changes. Where did we suddenly come up with this 3,000 mile schedule? And why? Scare tactics. Who said that the oil in a car that's not raced and used primarily as a day-to-day commute or run around vehicle needs a 3K oil change? Unless you're in Oz where the outback is dusty and dirty or extremely hot (breaks down viscosity), or do a lot of really short trips (couple miles to/from work or just to the store and back), there is really no necessity for a 3K oil change. NOTE***Porsche's recommended oil change schedule in my 02 twin turbo was 15,000 MILES!!!, and that's a high performance vehicle. I couldn't believe it. I did it every 7500...just couldn't bring myself to wait for 15,000...seemed way too long. I (personal opinion) truly believe that a 7500 mile scheduled change is well within reason. I've seen cars run 30,000 miles without an oil change, just adding oil as it needed it. My father in law bragged that he had a 58 Ford that he drove, and drove, and drove..... for 80K miles without an oil change. (NOT RECOMMENDED!!) Again, the dealerships put the OIL CHANGE DUE sticker on your windshield at 3K miles...it gets you back into the service department on an accelerated schedule for oil changes and a shot at you for that "other stuff". For those of you who will fire a shot across my bow, I'd like to see some scientific stats that say something different....again, NOT including the really dirty or dusty roads, HEAVY vehicle usage for towing or commercial work, extremes of hot and cold climates, or routine short to/from trips.